Forgotten In The Battle
Join Roxanna Johnson as she describes sexual addiction, betrayal trauma, and even co-dependency from the perspective of experience.
Johnson also shares the milestones of recovering strength, hope and even joy.
About the book
Sexual Addiction is rampant in our society. The spouse of a sex addict feels tremendous shame and often suffers from isolation, betrayal trauma, and even PTSD. This book is the story of one spouse and her journey to recovery. Interspersed in its pages is guidance for other spouses and those who support them. It is an honest and deep dive into a journey that will allow the spouse to live without fear and bitterness, whether or not their addicted spouse chooses healing. The author, Roxanna Johnson, shares how sexual addiction affected her life, preyed upon her false beliefs, and altered her concept of God. She describes sexual addiction, betrayal trauma, and even co-dependency from the perspective of experience. Johnson also shares the milestones of recovering strength, hope and even joy. She covers boundaries, honesty, forgiveness, subsequent health issues, and even intimacy. Johnson offers tools that helped her create serenity as a spouse, as well as relationship tools for those hoping to salvage their marriage or enter another relationship. Finally, Johnson shares her recovery miracles and encourages readers to search for their own journey’s miracles.
The Purposes of This Book
- To help all persons to understand there is an often-overlooked spiritual illness that accompanies addiction—the effects of loving an addicted person experienced by the spouse and other family members. This illness requires time, skill, and faith to heal.
- To give hope that families and relationships affected by sexual addiction can recover and heal through support, education, counseling, and God’s grace and mercy.
- To give hope to all who are in a committed relationship with an addicted person that whether or not their marriage or relationship heals, other family relationships can be maintained and strengthened through working recovery principles.
- To assist those affected by sexual addiction in understanding milestones on the journey to healing.
- To show those affected by sexual addiction that they are not alone.
- To educate family, friends, and clergy who want to support loved ones seeking recovery from the effects of sexual addiction.
Reviews
Roxanna Johnson’s story showed me that my feelings about being married to a sex addict were not only valid, but normal and that betrayal trauma is real. Society needs to support the families affected by addiction as much as they support the addict. If spouses and families don’t receive help to heal from the trauma of addiction, it will have a lasting impact on their lives. Reading Johnson’s book helped to heal me in a profound way.
Roxanna Johnson beautifully weaves her own exploration of the emotional and psychological aftermath
of betrayal with a practical guide to navigating the tumultuous journey of healing. She opens herself up in
a way that feels deeply personal, raw, and accessible.
Johnson’s ability to blend personal narrative with actionable guidance sets this book apart . It’s not just a
story or a set of observations. Johnson walks beside you on your own journey, offering support, insight,
and space to explore your feelings without judgment. I especially appreciated how she acknowledges that
recovery from betrayal is not linear or brief, and that it’s okay to take things one step at a time.
It’s clear that Johnson wants to help others reconnect with their own sense of self-worth and resilience.
After betrayal, it’s easy to lose sight of who we are or to feel broken. She consistently emphasizes self-
compassion, setting boundaries, and finding ways to rebuild trust; both with others and with yourself. It’s
clear that Johnson understands the complexity of betrayal trauma and doesn’t offer simplistic solutions.
Instead, she shares nuanced, thoughtful insights that encourage deep introspection and self-awareness.
The Forgotten Side of Sexual Addiction: A Spouse’s Journey is a raw, compassionate,
and incredibly insightful exploration of the effects of addiction on a loved one. In this
powerful book, Roxanna Johnson takes readers on a deeply personal journey, sharing
her own stories of pain, anger, and eventual healing after a lifetime of living with loved
ones who struggle with addiction. Her writing is unflinchingly honest, yet respectful,
offering both a testament to her strength and a lifeline to others who may be walking a
similar path. Through her narrative, Johnson doesn’t just recount her experiences; she
offers a roadmap of principles and suggestions for anyone struggling with the aftermath
of sexual addiction and betrayal. What stands out most is her refusal to sugarcoat the
journey—recovery, she makes clear, is not linear, but rather jagged and imperfect. This
book is not about finding quick fixes but about embracing the messiness of healing
while reclaiming one’s sense of self. The Forgotten Side of Sexual Addiction: A
Spouse’s Journey is a source of empowerment for anyone grappling with the
devastation of betrayal.
This book is a healing tool for those broken hearts who have experienced sexual addiction in their marriage. It shines a light on the debilitating burdens and shame thrust on the spouse. Johnson did an outstanding job of putting words to the life shattering experience of this and other addictions. She brings deep healing and hope for a future of forgiveness and progress. This book is a must read for anyone who loves, lives with, or even knows someone with the disease of addiction in their lives. It is a very helpful resource for identifying addiction behaviors, codependent reactions, and corresponding solutions. I highly recommend this book.
